How to keep your sanity. (in 3 easy steps)

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**This post has been sitting in the Queue because i told myself i was "waiting to write the perfect intro" -cue MEGA eye roll- but in all honesty i was subconsciously breaking all the rules and was just too tired and burnt out to just sit down Freaking write the thing. || In my shower this morning the realization of how much so much suffers when I am not at my full best hit me... like cold cold cold cold cold water(yea.....it happened)

and the same can be said for all of you, when you are not at your absolute best everything, and everyone, everywhere suffers(a little dramatic, but ya know. we are all kind of a big deal.)


If you are burnt out.... frequently burn out or feel the burn sneaking up on you here are 3 easy steps to ensure you stay Fun, Fabulous and Cool!


1.) Silence that voice that convinces you that "I Don't have time".  or 'There isn't enough time in the day.' It is not an acceptable nor is it rational line of thinking. I use to excuse this rule for parents and spouses but NO MORE - Everyone. always. has time. The fact of the matter is, even if you DO indeed have [tiny] human lives to cultivate and take care of, you and I, and everyone makes time for what they want to make time for. period. i know, it's cliche but oh how it's true. so i'll say it one more time.

You make time. for what you want to make time for. Period. Everyone gets 24 hrs. 


2.) Manage activities, not time. Manage activities, not time. Manage activities, not time. "Time management" is flawed in that when you attempt to not "waste time" you may fill it with empty activities. Time is a fluid an intangible concept which cannot me controlled or..."managed". Managing your activities holds you accountable for everything you do and thus breeding productivity.Your activities can be grasped, controlled and organized.  I am not suggesting you go scheduling crazy, however be extremely mindful of the things that take up too much of your time and too little of your time.

It's not That you need more time, it's how you spend your time.


3.) Saying No is hard. I get it. we don't want to hear it. we don't like to say it.  un. der. stood! 
so instead of "learning to say no" as we are often taught - Only say yes to things that make sense... to your heart. to your dreams and to your overall well being. Don't rationalize WHY you are saying yes when your heart and dreams and over all wellbeing is screaming a resounding N O! - over scheduling and by extension burning out happens when you begin to say yes to any old thing.... or out of obligation or loyalty or whatever reason. [you know why you say yes to everything]
-- I cannot speak for all, but i can say as a chronic ex-oversceduler, i can say putting that filter on my time and my services weeded out a lot of empty projects. and before my emails blows up(none emails me), no I am not saying don't help your friend move even though you are tired and much rather be cuddled in bed with Pino Grigio and Netflix, sacrifices and comprises can, should and will be made on this key because we are human and humanity is fluid and messy and unpredictable. All I am suggesting it that you stop swiftly saying yes. take a pause. breath. T H I N K!

say yes only if it makes sense.... to your heart. to your dreams. to your overall well being.

P.s. this is also[and especially] true to yourself, say yes to yourself only when it makes sense and yes taking a day off with that Netflix and Pino Grigio makes sense.... everyone needs a little R&R.

Go forth and prosper my fun and fabulous friends!