The Rules Have Changed.

We should not treat each other as threats, but as allies.

I learned at very young age that the biggest problem problem facing girl world today is not jealousy, but simply lack of edification and accountability.

We simply do not look out for each other. What is even worse is that it starts in the home. Mothers aren't pouring love and light into their daughters, Big sisters aren't sharing positive energy with their younger sisters,  and most tragic of all, aunts and nieces aren't walking in harmonious field of daisies. (ok, that's a tad extreme, but you get the picture)

I am not saying that families are mean to each other therefore girls are mean to each other; however, it's an evident correlation. The power of simply saying "you look pretty today" has flown so far under the radar that we think it bears no significance. We are so SPARING with our compliments to one another because we HEAR them sparingly. Now I'm not a mother, but I am pretty sure that all well-meaning mothers and mother figures have the most honorable intentions with how they deal with their daughters but again i say, the simple art of edification has been lost. As a result, it is assumed that we already know our beauty and worth and potential, it is assumed that we know how to give a sincere compliment, it is assumed that we know how to interact with other females and retain our own self confidence. When in reality we think the complete opposite by default because we have been taught nothing else.

Lucky for us, Jesus died, therefore bringing a solution to this egregious condition. The word of God is Clear about the rules of girl world - I'm telling you, God really DOES think of everything.

"the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed." (Titus 2:3-7)

Don't think for a moment this only applies to matriarchs, No matter how old you are there is ALWAYS someone younger than you. Be intentional to pour love, light and positivity into each other, Be fluid with compliments and tight lipped with criticisms. Be loving in correction and boisterous in praise. We have no reason or excuse to Not reverse the cycle. No reason or excuse not to be the generation of change. No reason or excuse not to put a stop the rivalry in girl world and simply live peaceably together. There should be no reason any woman should say "Ugh, i hate woman", there should be no reason for us to believe we are better off with only male friends. because let's face it[;] 

We need each other.

xoxo,

Ryen