The Rules Have Changed.

We should not treat each other as threats, but as allies.

I learned at very young age that the biggest problem problem facing girl world today is not jealousy, but simply lack of edification and accountability.

We simply do not look out for each other. What is even worse is that it starts in the home. Mothers aren't pouring love and light into their daughters, Big sisters aren't sharing positive energy with their younger sisters,  and most tragic of all, aunts and nieces aren't walking in harmonious field of daisies. (ok, that's a tad extreme, but you get the picture)

I am not saying that families are mean to each other therefore girls are mean to each other; however, it's an evident correlation. The power of simply saying "you look pretty today" has flown so far under the radar that we think it bears no significance. We are so SPARING with our compliments to one another because we HEAR them sparingly. Now I'm not a mother, but I am pretty sure that all well-meaning mothers and mother figures have the most honorable intentions with how they deal with their daughters but again i say, the simple art of edification has been lost. As a result, it is assumed that we already know our beauty and worth and potential, it is assumed that we know how to give a sincere compliment, it is assumed that we know how to interact with other females and retain our own self confidence. When in reality we think the complete opposite by default because we have been taught nothing else.

Lucky for us, Jesus died, therefore bringing a solution to this egregious condition. The word of God is Clear about the rules of girl world - I'm telling you, God really DOES think of everything.

"the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed." (Titus 2:3-7)

Don't think for a moment this only applies to matriarchs, No matter how old you are there is ALWAYS someone younger than you. Be intentional to pour love, light and positivity into each other, Be fluid with compliments and tight lipped with criticisms. Be loving in correction and boisterous in praise. We have no reason or excuse to Not reverse the cycle. No reason or excuse not to be the generation of change. No reason or excuse not to put a stop the rivalry in girl world and simply live peaceably together. There should be no reason any woman should say "Ugh, i hate woman", there should be no reason for us to believe we are better off with only male friends. because let's face it[;] 

We need each other.

xoxo,

Ryen

Supercharged.

KEEP DREAMING BIG!

Seems Like the biggest challenge in life is "finding yourself".

 Why are you here? What are you supposed to do? Where are you supposed to live? Who are you supposed to be with?

These Questions are, or have been, very real and present in every single human being's life; but, first things first. Wrap your head around the fact that you are not alone. Everyone goes through it. everyone

 I like to think that the answer to these questions are innate, but throughout the twist and turns of life's trials and tribulations we tend to stray away from our instincts and begin to trust our senses and feelings. We trust what is tangible and accessible.

 Think about it, when we are small children, we dream big with no inhibitions, we don't care what anyone says, but as life goes on, our priorities shift into "grown up" mode and money becomes the primary focus; thus, leaving our dreams and our true selves in a dust trail behind us.

 Matthew 6:24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.  

Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. 

 The moment we lose our true selves in the fight for control and self sufficiency we begin to ask ourselves these questions for assurance; however, the journey back to peace and satisfaction can be treacherous, and it's sad to say some never make it back and have doomed themselves to a life of misery. I remember I used to say "Just tell, me [EXACTLY] what to do Lord, and I'll do it", then I would get frustrated when God didn't give me the blueprint of my life. It wasn't until a little later on that I realized God gave me feelings, thoughts, opinions and ideals that equip me to be the best ME I can be, because I am the only me there is.

 He doesn't want to dictate our lives with an iron fist; He desires for us to live an abundant life. He knows, just like you know, that until you get to know yourself and walk in your purpose you will never experience that.

 if you take time to stop trying to "hear God" - Just so he can tell you what to do - and take prayerful time to abide in god he can Prepare you for what lies in your future. i promise, you will be a lot happier and i can guarantee you will see the answer to your questions were in you all along. 

xoxo,

R.L. Cooper

imperfection's flaw.

Don't allow not being perfect become an excuse for you to not be your best.

Somewhere along the way, the'Nobody is perfect' message has turned into a 'I can do whatever I want with no consequence' school of thinking. This is just sad. It's hard to tell people that it is o.k. to make mistakes without them thinking it is o.k. to be a total screw up.

Well, here is my stab at it: 

The fact that we make mistakes does not give us live a mediocre life. Saying 'nobody's perfect' does not allow us to circumvent the consequences for our actions. Understanding that perfection is an unattainable goal does not mean we can live however we want;understanding no one is perfect means that we live life knowing that we NEED Christ, and each other.

Hmmm, that was pretty easy. - Don't allow imperfection to be an excuse to not do/be your very best. God doesn't call us to be perfect people, for there is no such thing, He calls us to total dependence. Nothing more. Nothing less.

xoxo,

R.L.C.